Dementia Support Australia's (DSA) Staying at Home program was a beacon of hope for Chris and Suzie, providing simple, practical advice on how to support a loved one with dementia to continue living at home for as long as possible.

Chris* and Suzie* had lived a rich and full life, filled with travel and a deep affection for France. However, since Suzie's dementia diagnosis, Chris could see her gradually withdrawing and couldn't help but think about the possibility of residential care.

During the three-day, two-night Staying at Home program, which takes place in retreat-style accommodation, Suzie got to try activities tailored to uncover what brought her joy.

‘The real breakthrough came when Suzie was able to respond to the robotic companion dog Sammy. It was nonthreatening and she felt at ease, even speaking French to it,’ Chris says.

The program also shed light on Suzie’s sensitivity to loud noises, which was causing distress. Chris learned the sensitivity was a result of sensory changes linked to dementia, compounded by her hearing loss.

DSA Consultant Fiona explained, ‘Noise overwhelmed Suzie, but our team accompanied her outside to connect with nature, took quiet drives with soft music, and minimised conversations.’

Chris also worked on his communication skills: 'I started to use non-verbal cues, reducing the number of words, and discovering new ways to connect.

'We also use Sammy as a vehicle to communicate simple messages, which Suzie finds less challenging than a direct conversation.'

Back at home, Chris continued to implement the techniques he learned during the program.

‘I put together a “Memory Book” which contains all the basic facts about Suzie’s life. We show it to her when she asks questions about her life or who people are, or to use if she is distressed,’ says Chris.

The Staying at Home program, funded by the Australian Government and delivered through Dementia Support Australia, has given Chris hope he can continue to support Suzie at home, as both husband and carer.

*Names have been changed on request.