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Family Carer
  • Dementia
  • 04 January 2018
  • Blog

6 tips for a dementia-friendly Christmas

For a person living with dementia, celebrating Christmas can be an overwhelming experience. Here are our tips to help you care for your loved one during the festive season.

The senior member of your family, who lives with dementia, takes their usual seat at the head of the table for Christmas lunch. Children are darting about happily, people are being greeted as they enter the house from behind the head seat and several conversations competing with festive music are coming from the adjacent room. People help themselves to food and drinks served in the middle of the table,.

It sounds like a typical, joyous Christmas day – until your beloved older relative gets overwhelmed and loses their temper.

While living with the sensory challenges of dementia may be difficult at times, there are a few simple steps families can take to help everyone enjoy an inclusive and fun-filled celebration.

Our tips on how to create a dementia-friendly Christmas are a result of the latest research and practice from A/Prof Colm Cunningham and Agnes Houston MBE, who is living with dementia.

1.  Be mindful when you speak – encourage confidence by keeping it simple

Conversations can be challenging for someone living with dementia. To help them out, use short and simple sentences, avoid complicated words, and try not to repeat things multiple times. It also helps to slow down when you speak and to wait patiently for the person to respond – it may take them a while to gather their thoughts.

Some sad memories may be more present at Christmas. While these shouldn’t be avoided, we suggest having old photographs or home videos on hand that can help to broaden the conversation. And if holding conversation is challenging, then make the most of the musical aspect of Christmas: singing and listening together. You don’t need to have great musical ability, simply playing a Christmas CD can have direct benefits for someone living with dementia, especially if their speech has become impaired.

2.  Plan ahead and set aside a quiet space to retreat to

Visiting family and friends for celebrations can take place in a variety of locations often not familiar to the person with dementia. To help those living with dementia, it’s important to plan ahead as much as possible. Be prepared by packing a bag with any appropriate medication and a change of clothes (to avoid embarrassment if the person has not easily found the toilet and an accident has occurred). Appointing a designated driver is also a good idea, in case your loved one feels anxious and needs to be taken home straight away.

As family gatherings can be tiring and overwhelming, have a resting place in mind. This could be a bedroom that is away from noise and crowds, but close to a well-lit bathroom, where someone living with dementia can take a break from the festivities if they need to.

3.  Include familiar moments at mealtime – use social cues

Mealtime traditions can help your loved one navigate Christmas meals more easily. Simple pre-meal traditions like saying grace, making a toast or wishing everyone Merry Christmas before eating can provide a social cue that food is coming and it's time to eat.

It's also important to serve the meal in a well-lit area, as a person living with dementia may have difficulty seeing what is on their plate.

4.  Be thoughtful with your menu

Food is a feature at Christmas time and the prevalence of a thoughtful menu including snacks and finger food can greatly benefit the person with dementia. If you can, also try to serve smaller portion sizes of soft food to help those who have difficulty swallowing or chewing.

Put food on crockery with contrasting colours so the meal is easy to see and eat.

Place lots of finger food throughout the living area, so your loved one can eat nourishing food while walking around and engaging with others without having to worry about handling cutlery.

5.  Help them get started and the importance of light

Depending on the progression of the person’s dementia, they may not recognise generic dining table items, such as cutlery. Putting the knife and fork in the hands of someone living with dementia may prompt the memory of cutlery – having a tactile cue will help trigger what to do with the utensils.

It is also important to consider lighting, as a person with dementia may have trouble seeing what is on their plate. Position their place-setting in the best lit area and use plates with a contrasting colour to the meal. Ensure that there is easy access to the toilet.

6.  Don’t forget about the carers

Carers of people living with dementia work tirelessly to fulfil their valuable role - they deserve a chance to put their feet up at Christmas!

We urge families not to forget primary caregivers at Christmas as it is a great opportunity to offer them support. Provide them with some time-out by offering to sit with your loved one during mealtime, or to spend time with them during other parts of the day.